Am i an evil person because i went to a hooker?
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I аm a 32 year οƖԁ man аחԁ һаνе never һаԁ a proper relationship wіtһ a woman i аm very sensitive. It mіɡһt sound crazy bυt i аm now quite ɡοοԁ-looking, i lost 85lbs іח weight аחԁ worked out loads! Recently i ѕtаrtеԁ talking tο tһіѕ girl іח work ѕһе′s 25 аחԁ stunning, wе һаνе a really ɡοοԁ laugh. I аѕkеԁ һеr out οח a date аחԁ wе kissed аt tһе еחԁ аחԁ ѕһе′s supposed tο bе coming tο mine fοr a meal next week, ѕһе′s away! tһе οחƖу relationship i еνеr һаԁ wаѕ wһеח i wаѕ 20 i wаѕ friends wіtһ tһіѕ girl fοr 2 years tһеח wе ѕtаrtеԁ tο date! I Ɩονеԁ һеr alot, wе wеrе having sexual contact bυt חοt sex. I tοƖԁ һеr i wаѕ a virgin аחԁ ѕһе dumped mе! I felt lost, wе ѕаіԁ wе wеrе soulmates. I took alot οf drugs аftеr, drank, gained weight аחԁ јυѕt ѕtаrtеԁ tο сƖеаח up mу act 2 years ago wһеח i turned 30. I really Ɩіkе tһіѕ girl frοm work bυt havent һаԁ ‘real’ sex wіtһ anyone. 2 drink n drug induced 1 night stands. I wеחt 2a prostitute nd аѕkеԁ һеr tο teach mе. Wе ԁіԁ іt twice, i feel ive lost mу soul?
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No you are not.
Ugh, why would you want to hook up with a prostitute? You’re in need of forgiveness
Ah, but you’ve learned your lesson.
We can all talk about how we forgive you (or not…some people here are going to be cruel in their responses), whether God does, etc. but here’s the bottom line.
You have to forgive you. Stop kicking yourself, keep this lesson in your heart and move on.
Wow! You should have watched the 40 year old virgin first. Sorry!
you’re not evil, but that’s a little gross.
no you haven’t, this is your chance to start over again. well done for trying to turn you life around.
Don’t worry about that. Was it fun? Did you learn anything? Get back in the game, find a new girl, and don’t tell her TOO much. Good luck bro.
Evil? Bah… no such thing!
NO, its 2007 not 1800, have at it
U need counseling 4 real.
i’m with sugar n spice
Desperate men do a lot of desperate things.
You shouldn’t feel sorry for yourself, that in itself can distance you from the one you truly love.
You need to be strong and embrace your faults. They’ve helped you learn about who you are and you understand not to repeat them.
So you were lonely and wanted satisfaction, is that something you want to carry with you forever?
Leave the past behind and look forward to a good future.
Best advice I can give is to be yourself but be proud of yourself.
Avoid dwelling too much on the past b/c when you do it shows.
You’ll find someone eventually, everyone always does.
You feel guilt because society has taught you to feel guilt. You are doing what you need to do to learn about yourself. As long as you don’t hurt yourself, or hurt someone else, try to feel good about yourself. Tell yourself every day that you feel good and that you are a good person.
evilllllllll evillllllll
There is a reason every person follows certain paths. Maybe you just needed that at the time so when it did come time for you to be intimate with someone you care about, you didn’t feel lost. Instead you’ll feel confident and excited. As long as you let the person know that you’re be intimate with that this has happened, then you should have no worries. And you are NOT a bad person whatsoever….. you said yourself you were on the wrong track for a while. Good luck, God bless.
You truly are a loser.
But going to a prostitute is not the blame for that.
You have a piss poor social life.
That’s what you need to work on.
Well at least you’re not a virgin anymore… so you should have more confidence in you… Why dont you ask this girl out? What are you gonna loose? If she say no, well too bad for her… there are plenty girls out there waiting for you. And for the hooker, dont worry, u’ll be suprised how many men slept with them for the first time… having the same pb as you…
you really shouldn’t date anyone you work with. Rule of thumb don’t mix honey with money. It seems to me that your trying to hard to find love. Love comes naturally and it will find you. Stop killing yourself over this it’s not worth it. Take some time and think things out. Enjoy life with some friends or take a walk. I wouldn’t be proud of the hooker thing either. Also remember this there is always someone worse off then you. She’s out there somewhere just be patient.Good luck and take care.
Talk about your guilty pleasures…. to be honest, that is not as uncommon as you think. I have a friend of a friend who works at the Bunny Ranch and all she ever talks about is how she gets guys (and girls) comming in for their 1st sexual experience. A lot of times the parents paid for it!
As long as you’ve been tested and you’re clean, I think you’re ok. Do I condone it, no. But I’m not one to judge and I do understand. I wish you the best in th e future.
You did the right thing if you ask me, don’t feel bad for getting a hooker there ain’t nothing wrong with that. Whats is wrong is that that bitch dumped you because you told her you were a virgin.
Cheer up man, don’t beat yourself up, you’ve been doing that for a long time and it got you no where, now that you’ve cleaned up your act and have this new girl to focus on you can’t afford to beat yourself up anymore.
no. you are not evil. you did what you thought was right, but it seems that you don’t think it was the right thing to do now. just to tell you something, she may have appreciated that you were a virgin. i would have enjoyed it myself. first things first, go get checked by a doc, just in case. not all STDs are preventable by condom use. move on and i hope everything works out for you and your new girl.
bad person no;low confidence yes
It all depends on your world view.
Personally, that is one fickle woman to dump you over such a thing.
So, if you have a religion, make it right with your religion.
If you don’t have a religion, I don’t understand why you’re sweatting it.
Don’t be so insecure.
You can learn more from study then a prostitute. Your action may have been wrong but your intentions were just misguided.
Read John Grays book ” Men are from Mars Women from Venus in the bedroom…
I think you need to find out how to give a women an orgasm with you fingers and mouth then never mind her.. She likely will know what to do with you… if not give her the book.
Deal with your moral values issues as a separate question.
The longer you continue to just “live” ,,,the better you get at it.
Did you learn anything? If so, don’t feel so bad. At least you can please the lady if you get her in bed now.
hey you feel guilty about it. that’s a good thing. don’t do it again and let it go. beating yourself up isn’t gonna do any good. as someone who is a recovering addict i know how the shame can get to you. send me an email if you wanna chat. and remember that any relationship worth having is built on more than your sexual prowess.
Relax my friend, you haven’t lost your soul. Prostitution is only frowned upon in the US, most all other countries embrace it, so just relax about that. But your bigger issues are your drug and alcahol abuse…. Now that is what you’ve got to get under control. And if a girl left you because you said you were a virgin, to hell with her! If she’s to close minded to be with someone sexually inexperienced she probably wasn’t very honest with you about her TRUE feelings. Just cut back seriously on the booze and drugs my friend, you’ll be OK.
It’s morally wrong to visit a prostitute. What’s more, what they can teach you about sex, you can learn it too from watching porn and reading books like Kamasutra and Supersex. So, that’s not a good excuse.
What I think you really need is some counselling. You need to get your act together and you need some self-esteem.
You are not evil. Mayhaps a bit desperate. I think that it’s sad that someone would dump someone just for being a virgin. That makes little sense to me. Maybe you’re just interested in the wrong women.
Anyway, what’s done is done. If you feel wrong about it; then don’t do it again.
I believe that the “soul” is actually our being (not something religious) and that everything in our lives makes up our soul. You can’t loose your soul but if you do something that is against your belief system then you feel as though you are bad or lost.
Remember that you are a human being first and foremost. You’re not perfect. There are much worse things that you could have done: rape, murder, etc. My advice is to accept what you have done and realize that one action does not define who you are.
No. You’re not evil.
1) It sounds like you are trying to process through the shards of your first relationship. That does not make you good or evil. It does demonstrate that you are trying to come to terms with a very serious felt pain.
2) I cant tell you that you are good or evil. I can, but my voice will only be heard in your ears, not your heart. Your heart is telling you that what you did is wrong. You should listen to it.
3) Listen to your heart. There is no lost such that there is no healing. Just like its telling you that you lost your soul it will also say “there is a road back to the light”. If you listen to it, and let your heart live thats very healthy. If you do what you know is right in your heart thats very healthy. You cant not do what you did with the hooker, but you can undo it. There is a way to make right by your heart and get to a place of peace.
4) Get tested. Hookers are … hookers. There is nobody alive who instantly knows the second a new bacteria enters their body. She lives a high-risk lifestyle. If she had AIDS and you get a “day-after pill” within a week, you dont get AIDS. Same is true for a lot of other diseases. Get tested. If you have a disease, get treated.
5) You are 30 and were a virgin, but what if the 25 year old was a virgin? What if she is utterly unlike your first girl? What if in doing this you lost her instead of winning her?
No, it just sounds like you thought that it would be the way to experience something that you really wanted. Sex has so many dimensions to it – the physical part is just one aspect; it really is much better if you are married to someone that you really love and you have it there because there is a bonding that takes place emotionally and spiritually.
Be encouraged – you’ll find someone to have a proper relationship with – there are plenty of women who would absolutely LOVE to go out with someone like you. Don’t let this get you down – try to be optimistic – there are lots of good women out there who will appreciate you.
No man, you aren’t a bad person. Your intentions even seem to be in the right place. You don’t want to lose a woman because you are bad in bed. Alot of people are bad in bed that are total sluts. Until you really know a person well, you probably won’t have really good sex anyway. Sex does get better as you learn what eachother like, and dislike.
Don’t make it a habit, because it’s obviously not healthy for you.
Put the past behind you, and get on with life. Good luck. I hope you find yourself a keeper soon.
Look so your not gross or lost your mind i can actually see why you would do something like that. in fact the world would be a better sex place if we all learned from professionals! Maybe then i wouldn’t have to hear my gfs complain about horrible 1nite stands! lol its OK we all do things that we are not proud of whats important is that we learn from them and don’t look back. your a grown man so act like it. its done and you cant go back but you can be with this girl and make something good of it relax it is not the end of the world. your guilt is clouding your vision that’s why you cant see your soul, but its there.
PS. i hope you enjoyed it! lol