is there such a thing as fate? or soulmates?
Author: Admin
іf ѕο ԁοеѕ tһіѕ mean im חοt going mаԁ?
i know im young blah blah blah… bυt іt seems tο mе Ɩіkе tһе universe іѕ trying tο tеƖƖ mе something. 3 months ago i brοkе up wіtһ mу boyfriend bесаυѕе wе һаԁ distance problems (һе mονеԁ аbουt 6 hours away bесаυѕе һіѕ parents wеrе getting a divorce-wе tried long distance fοr аbουt 3 months) mу parents liked һіm аחԁ ѕο ԁіԁ all mу friends. now all i hear іѕ (һіѕ city) tһіѕ аחԁ tһаt.. аחԁ һіѕ name іѕ popping out οf חο wһеrе!! mу friends аrе dating people wіtһ һіѕ same name! theres even a guy аt mу school tһаt “Ɩіkеѕ″ mе аחԁ looks alike mу ex…
ive mονеԁ οח (sometimes) bυt tһеѕе “signs” keep moving mе back a step.
p.s. please, keep ur negativity tο yourself.
һіѕ whole name wουƖԁ appear:
jorge alexis g.
wһісһ іѕ חοt tһаt normal bесаυѕе іח tһе hispanic community alexis іѕ usually a girls name. …haha..
i lost contact wіtһ һіm wһеח i һаԁ a phone accident 2 weeks afterwards
thats tһе problem i dont tһіחk аbουt һіm аѕ much becuase i һаνе a really busy life аחԁ wіtһ school іtѕ basically mу life rіɡһt now.
im חοt saying һе′s mу soulmate bυt i find іt wеіrԁ tһаt tһіѕ keeps happening..
4 οf mу friends dated guys named:
jorge
george
alex
alexander….???
ѕіחсе a month ago.
tһаt іѕ really touching tangerine(:
i wіƖƖ ԁο tһаt! іt wіƖƖ take a wһіƖе tο track һіm though… һе lives іח a small isolated town. bυt i wіƖƖ call һіm.
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It sounds like you love him. I had the same things happen when I left another girl. For example, you see a certain hair type and you heart aches. There isn’t fate or soul mates, but their is love and infatuation.
Be it people, words, places…it never seems to fail that we recognize a certain thing only when it takes precedence in our consciousness. Those things might all have been happening at just as constant a rate now, only you didn’t notice it before. Or, it could be serendipity—they truly weren’t so prevalent before now. I don’t have the answer to this question, but it’s a very common experience. Someone should do a study on this type of thing.
I happen to believe in the maxim: there are no such things as coincidence…everything happens for a reason.
is his name chris? that is a very common name
if not, then it’s just a coincoidence
i beleive in fate and soulmates
call your exbf and see what’s up
whatever happens is going to happen, you can’t force it, so don’t worry
I believe everything happens for a reason, and people tell me I need to get my head out of the movies. Yea well, im with you and I believe in fate and soulmates also. Dont give up on what you think or believe in. EVER! Go to the bible and read luke 1:37, that keeps my head held high and its been a great thing for me. Just dont ever give up on what you believe in.
i dont think he’s your soulmate just because his name keeps on popping out or your friends are dating guys with the same name. Okay a GOOD explanation maybe his name’s common like john or mark or michael. Or maybe you keep on thinking abt him that whenever a similar name or a guy who looks like him (which is a very common case and is inevitable) pops out of nowhere you associate it with your ex and him being your soulmate or something.
I dont believe in soulmates but i think there is atleast one or two guys (among the billions of people on earth) who perfectly complements my personality and who finds all my weaknesses and quirks attractive.
Sure I believe in fate. I was going out with a guy 20 months ago this didn’t work out and we parted ways, and 6 months later he gets in contact with me and we have been dating since and everything is wonderful, I guess we were meant to because otherwise we would not be together now, I guess he was still thinking about me and new he made a mistake letting me go in the first place. There have been other stories where people have dated 10 years prior and 1 person moves away, then 20 years later they came back to the same town and fate brought the 2 together, its weird but totally possible. Don’t ignore signs it may be telling you something, maybe you should stay in touch with him even if its checking in just to say hi, that way you will have communication with him, you never know maybe when his parents divorce he may move back with his mom or dad. But that does’t mean you should not move on with your life. Keep in touch just as friends. Good luck babe.
With your concern, it is rather obvious that you feel for your boyfriend. The thing is that you are not seeing the name more than you used to and you are also not seeing more people that look like him. Your mind is just looking for the traits that this person had. It’s actual a rather common things and happens not only with love, but material possessions as well. If you buy a new car, suddenly you will see that car everywhere, because you’re noticing and looking for it.
His name is jorge alexis g. and your friends dated guys named Jorge, Alex, Alexander and george. I know it least three people of hispanic ethnicity that have the name Jorge and I live in Kansas. Alex and alexander are not actually in the name and you the last name of your ex was not actually given, but I’m guessing that it’s not george. As I’ve previously stated you’re mind is making them fit into the pattern.
Personally, I don;t believe in fate and especially soul mates. The theory alone is slightly ludicrous.
“there is one person out there that is the perfect match for me.”
With all of the people in the world, there is a rather small chance that you would meet this person. Also, there is a much larger chance that there is someone better suited for you than the person that you consider to be your soul mate.
Sorry, I sort of got off on a tangent there.
Also, I’m sorry if I come off as rather negative, but, as you stated before, you have your whole life ahead of you. Don’t waste it focusing on the one that got away. Live in the moment. If the fate to which you subscibe is real between you two, you can avoid meeting again. Maybe then you will see whether this person was truly your soulmate.
I guess you are just a giddy teenager going through the bumpy ride on the wheels of love. The separation from a dear one does things to us and our mind subconsciously seeks him out in every little thing. You are missing him very badly, that’s what is happening. You are growing up and will experience many more relationships, separations etc. Just keep your mind open and don’t be morose.
I am sorry if it sounds like negativity to you but I am talking through lifetime’s experience…
I believe three things may be happening here.
1. Mental Pattern Matching-
As Deathgrip as already stated the mind will try to pattern match as much as possible. When it finds a pattern, a person with a similar name, it will alert us to the fact by making us notice it. If it does not find a pattern it will scrap the information and you wont remember it any more than you remember all the signs along the road you travel.
2. Social Influence-
People do not like to admit it but the actions of other have a great influence on our own behaviour. If many people use one road to get from one part of town to another we will be more inclined to use the same road as well. It is possible that your friends were influenced in some small way by your relationship to take greater notice of people with similar names over some with a completely different name.
3. Sub-Conscious Attraction-
While consciously you may have split due to ‘distance problems’ your sub-conscious may not have accepted this as a viable course of action. One of the most powerful motivators in any species is instinct. While many humans do not wish to admit it the mating instinct in humans is just as strong as in any other animal, the drive to make sure that the species (your DNA lineage) survives and has the strongest chance is extremely powerful. It is the basic job of the sub-conscious mind to make sure that we fulfil the base instincts programmed into our genetic code.
Is there fate, is there soul mates? I am not qualified to answer, perhaps, perhaps not. All I know is that while many relationships these days are based on simply mating instinct, once the kids are born they find they actually hate each other, there have been a few that have been based on something stronger. What this ‘special’ bond is, I don’t know but I do know that it is not easy to find and not easy to break.
Hope this helps.
Of course there is such a thing as fate and having a soulmate!!! God knows you inside and out and He knows who He wants you to be with; who you would have a really good relationship with, and you’d definitely be able to learn from each other.
I’ve had five boyfriends starting almost 3 years ago (I’m 18) and right now, I can tell you that you thinking about him and having crossed paths with him in the first place could be positive or negative, but either way you are going to think about him and 3 months is not sufficient time after a breakup to decide if you want to get back together.
Yes, indeed, everything happens for a reason…sometimes you just need time apart to grow individually. Give it a couple more months, at least, and clear your head. You will be glad you did. It is possible that the occurrences you spoke of that seemed to be pointing you toward him only occurred because you gave him too much attention and therefore, you immediately need to re-prioritize your business. :->
Definitely do not stress yourself out over any boy because the one who is perfect for you (notice I said the one who is perfect for you and not the one who is perfect) will stumble across you possibly when you least expect, and you’ll know it. I know you’ve probably heard this:”When it’s real, you know.” Well, people say that for a reason! And definitely remember that it has to be the right person, the right way, at the right time to work. Don’t rush it. Wait!!! ..it’s worth it. Don’t waste time. Take lessons from every experience, regardless of if the experience was negative or positive. If we weren’t meant to grow, we wouldn’t. I hope to have helped much!!