i have been dating this man for 3 months and from the start i have known he was getting a divorce, he is tryin
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һе іѕ trying tο come up wіtһ tһе money fοr іt a 1000.00. plus аftеr іt іѕ filed іt takes 6 months b/c οf һіѕ son involved. һе wаѕ seperated іח aug аחԁ wе met аחԁ ѕtаrtеԁ dating іח oct. now һе ѕауѕ һе needs time tο figure out wһаt һе wаחtѕ аחԁ іѕ scared ill bе Ɩіkе һіѕ ex. wһο cheated οח һіm ѕο much tһаt һе һаԁ tο wait until һіѕ son wаѕ born tο find out іf іt wаѕ һіѕ οr חοt. plus ѕһе іѕ pregant again аחԁ іѕ due іח june wіtһ another mans baby. mу boyfriend ѕауѕ һе doesnt know wһаt tο tһіחk аחԁ іѕ afraid. һіѕ job maybe cutting һіѕ рƖасе аחԁ һе іѕ looking fοr another one before tһаt happens. һе іѕ really stressed. іѕ now חοt tһе time tο date һіm. һе ѕауѕ һе Ɩονеѕ mе аחԁ feels wе аrе soulmates.аחԁ wаחtѕ tο wait until һе іѕ fully divorced tο focus οח υѕ. mу qυеѕtіοח іѕ һοw ԁο i һеƖр һіm ɡеt through tһіѕ tough situation аחԁ see tһаt i wont bе Ɩіkе һеr?
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He will be just happy as poop if you keep giving him sex whenever he needs it because he is obviously a loser and wants to drag you into his screwed up life.
Hes the one pulling the brakes on things, it sounds like. who needs someone with all that baggage. You can wait around and be on his back burner if you want to, MAYBE he will choose you. other wise get out.
Give him time, divorce is such a stressful thing. His ex doesn’t sound like she’ll give up easily either. Step back and give him space, don’t pester him. He sounds as though he loves you and will come to you when he’s ready x
Give him his space and let him figure out his life and you can be there for him if he needs your help.
just be there for him and give him his space that he needs. If you guys are indeed soulmates then you will work through this.
Good Luck!
You can’t make him believe anything. You just have to show him in the long run. Don’t push anything serious with this man just yet. Be his friend….be there for him. Have fun and take his mind off the stress in his life. Offer your support and help if needed, but don’t push a relationship just yet. Let it grow slowly. He’s been hurt and that can backlash on you in a second. Be aware…I’m in the EXACT SAME situation, although both my boyfriend and I have been through rough past relationships, but I’m the one in the process of the divorce right now.
Sex him, act like you are 7-11 just for him. That will help him prioritize what he needs. Work is stressful, his ex is stressful, you are his outlet. No stress, no strain.
You need to back away from this situation ,a man fresh off a divorce needs time to heal and think about what he needs.You will be nothing more than a rebound and rebounds dont stay around to long as far as that goes,a shame on you for letting yourself get invovled to this extent now your little heart it going ot break ,good luck.
He’s bad news girl… I would run if I were you. You’re so wasting your time with this one. He needs you as his crutch, but this is not a good foundation on which to build a solid relationship. I’m sure he means well, and he probably believes that he loves you, but it is because you were the one who happened to be there when he was desperately searching for someone to lean on. It is very unllikely he loves you for *you*, for who you are; he would have “loved” anyone else who happened to fill this role at his time of need.
I would bid my goodbyes if I were you.
The problem is that you’re smack dab in the middle of something that doesn’t and shouldn’t involve you. This man needs a soft place to fall because he’s distrought. Divorce is HELL. It’s best to let him get through his divorce and not make any demands or have any expectations. It takes a long time to get through a divorce, and the emotional state he’s in now is NOT who he really is. Move on and let him know to call you when he’s emotionally free and open. Meanwhile, live your life. Hopefully he’ll come around before someone else snags you up! Good luck!
as his head is in the clouds at present it may be best to call it ‘friends who support’ for now,,,time will tell and how you handle this situation will show him what you are made of too. be honest with yourself,,you want him but you want the whole him and not a shell,,this space without distraction will help him put himself back together again.be supportive,,go out by all means,enjoy each others company and if you can honestly and with feeling ask,,’how are you’ and really mean it and want to know he will feel your support but not feel suffocated,,if he can sort his life himself he will grow faster and be healthier for it and you get someone who know who and what you are and he will know you were a friend when he needed one badly.
you don’t want to be the rebound girl. stay his friend with no expectations. he needs time to grieve over all this drama in his life.
Like everyone else has said, time and space are good. Divorce is a hard thing to go through, no matter how bad the relationship was – and it’s always worse if children are involved. Let him know that you won’t pressure him and will be there for him. The only real way you can show him that you’re not like her is by proving it over time, though, and being there when he needs you.
You might consider suggesting some counseling as well – for him alone, and/or for both of you together. That would allow him to work through his issues, and then work on your relationship. It might also give you some ways to cope with the situation, since he’s not the only one going through this!
GET OUT NOW.
RUN!!! RUN!!! RUN!!!
Otherwise you will be dragged deeper into the drama involving him, the kid and the Ex… FOREVER.
Go meet another guy.
You don’t need this headache.
First of all no sex. You have to be there for him as a friend. He is not ready for a romantic type relationship with what he has been through and what he is going through.
I saw this happen just this last year. Aman and his wife having battles and waiting until the baby was born etc etc. Baby is born they get divorce and then they fight for custody rights of the child. He remarried and it lasted 6 months because he had not healed yet from the divorce
Show him that you are understanding, show him that you care, and that he wont regret being with you… how do you do this..
Be his friend. be his BEST friend and wait until he gets his life together, so call him see how he is doing, keep in touch but let him be the one to invite you out. Basically give him space and time TRUST ME he will appreciate your efforts and consideration. All the man wants is to do things right! so dont make it hard for him.
Sit down over a nice dinner or maybe a walk somewhere relaxing and tell him you respect him and want the best for him, and that you are willing to hold for him until he feels mentally reade to face a new BETTER relationship… if you do this the man will be kissing your toes and you will finally show him you are the one! But you MUST do this and not just say it.
You’ll just have to become extremely understanding and patient. When he wants you around, be there for him. When he needs time or space, give him that without gripping or being needy. He’ll see that you care for him and that you aren’t like her. It’s hard though. You just have to keep saying it’ll be worth it in the end. Cuz if you do those things, I don’t think he’ll choose his lying cheating soon-to-be exwife over you. He’ll see how much better he can have it, and he’ll want you. It’s just hard sometimes, especially when he wants that space cuz you’ll feel really rejected. But you just have to remind yourself that it isn’t about you; it’s about all this crap he’s going through.